Divorced And At Peace
Let’s face it, no one enters into a marital union with the hopes of it failing. I know that I surely didn’t! I went through a devastating prenuptial divorce. I waddled in self-pity for so long that it became comfortable. Almost as though it was second nature. Finally realizing that I mattered to society (regardless of my marital status), I picked myself back up and wrote an Inspiring Autobiography. Since my divorce (and with no college education), I have become the CEO of several businesses including Cheryl H Gore clothing and accessories brand.
I am so grateful that my brands, namely Cheryl H Gore, are generating a lot of positive feedback from the divorced community! In the past, I had to remind myself that my divorce was not in vain. It was meant for me to be an uplifting voice for the divorced community.
Proud Moments
When you’re literally down to your last $0.08 (actual bank image is in the autobiography) left to your name, you have to do a lot of soul searching to turn your life around. Having been diagnosed with ADHD and Social Anxiety, this could prove to be a challenging task. I routinely reminded myself that, simply put, I learn things on a different level, but I am capable of learning. However, I’m very proud to say that I’ve (self) taught myself so many things since my divorce!! Namely, how to register businesses with the SOS/IRS, how to open up business bank accounts, how to design logos (I’ve designed hundreds), although I no longer create them for the general public, how to create websites (I’ve created dozens), how to register domain names (I’m currently a Domain Registrar), how to trademark brands, how to start podcasts, how to start a book publishing company and so much more. But, most importantly, being knocked down has taught me that if you can look up, you can get up!! Staying down is optional.
It’s Virtually Impossible…..
to have bitterness and resentment in your heart, but yet still have peace and joy. They are not mutually exclusive and you have to choose one set or the other. I didn’t realize just how much bitterness, anger and resentment that I had toward the WHOLE divorce process. Particularly, and in my case, the prenuptial divorce process. I would oftentimes try and convince myself that I wasn’t bitter. And, that worked out “ok” for a little while. I eventually came to my senses and realized that I was literally frozen in time! I wasn’t progressing, nor moving forward. In other words, I was stagnant. I found myself reading a lot of material about forgiveness. My findings taught me that forgiveness doesn’t excuse the behavior of other people. Forgiveness is for YOU. It will free your mind and emotions, thus allowing you to move forward in life. I’m pleased that I am free from being held an emotional hostage to myself. I have moved on with my life.
Divorce Is Never Easy
It’s probably one of the more difficult situations that many of us will ever face. However, together we’ll get through it……one big virtual hug at a time.
